As a typical American boy growing up in the 1950’s, one of my most cherished presents was my first BB gun.  I can still remember my first whiffs of the distinctive smell of gun oil. I grew up watching Fess Parker as “Daniel Boone” and Chuck Connors as “The Rifleman” on TV.  My BB gun was cock-action and I imagined myself swinging it to cock as the Rifleman did (although I never managed to actually do it).

In junior high I graduated to a bolt action .22 that even had a scope. I lived on the outskirts of our Nebraska town and I’d take my .22 down to the river and shoot frogs. My Boy Scout camp had a rifle range and I earned several “marksman” awards I had framed on my bedroom wall.

Then in high school I graduated to a 20-gauge shot gun.  I could never hit moving targets, however.  I only remember bagging one bird in the cold, early-morning pheasant hunts I went on with my Dad and his friends. Standing in a clump of grass only about 10 yards away looking disoriented, you could have given that pheasant a blindfold—it was an execution more than sportsmanship. 

In some ways, I have those guns to thank for my life-long passion of enjoying the outdoors. By far the best meal I’ve had in the last year was a home-cooked elk steak at the home of a friend. The food was fantastic, but so were the stories he told tracking the elusive animal up and down desolate mountainsides in Wyoming.

The debate about gun control in America is too often framed by both sides as a simplistic, and false, paradox.  The NRA portrays anyone in favor of common-sense gun control as urbanized, subtly effeminate wimps who want to “take away our guns.”  Their liberal opponents portray anyone who enjoys shooting guns as dangerous rednecks direct from the movie “Deliverance.”  Each side has created a “straw man” opponent it can easily ridicule in its fund-raising campaigns.

There is no room for me, and millions of Americans like me, in this false paradox. 

We exist in the middle of this tension, in between two radical alternatives.  We are marginalized in the debate, our voices consistently drowned out by well-financed extreme rhetoric.  And yet I, and millions like me, represent the majority opinion in America. 

This is why I hope you will take a few moments to read the article “Home Should Not be a War Zone” by US Army Gen. Stanley McChrystal, former commander of U.S. and international forces in Afghanistan and of the Joint Special Operations Command.  He writes: 

Last Friday, two days before the tragedy in Orlando, a new initiative, the Veterans Coalition for Common Sense, led by the Navy combat veteran Capt. Mark Kelly and his wife, the former Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords, was announced. Those of us serving on its advisory committee come from every branch of our military and virtually every rank. We are trained in the use of firearms, and many of us have served in combat. And we all think our country must do more to save lives from being cut short by gun violence.

Again, please read the entire article. General McChrystal points out that from 2001 to 2010, 119,246 Americans were murdered with guns, 18 times all American combat deaths in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. He continues:

Today, some of our politicians and the people who back them seem to promote a culture of gun ownership that does not conform with what I learned in the military.

Here at home, many of us are alarmed by the carnage. We are alarmed by loopholes that let felons and domestic abusers get hold of guns without a background check. We are alarmed that a known or suspected terrorist can go to a federally licensed firearms dealer where background checks are conducted, pass that background check, legally purchase a firearm and walk out the door.

Here is his conclusion:

We Americans are not a uniquely bloodthirsty people. We do not have more violent video games or movies than other countries. We do not have more dangerously mentally ill individuals than other countries. We are not unique in facing down the threat of global terrorism and active shooters.

But we have uniquely high rates of gun deaths and injuries that make us stand out in the worst of ways. Our communities should not feel like war zones. Our leaders can start by doing more to keep guns out of the hands of those who cannot be trusted to handle them responsibly. That must be our mission.

As I grew up watching Daniel Boone, kids today grow up watching exceedingly more violent movies (and playing video games) that feature Navy SEALs or other special forces. Perhaps it takes a General who led the SEALs to say “enough is enough” in America.  Perhaps the Veterans Coalition for Common Sense can finally catalyze a movement for common-sense gun control in America.  I encourage you to find out more about them at their website. 

As for me, I don’t want to take away peoples’ guns.  I can easily imagine my cherished .22 still standing in my closet today.  What I cannot imagine is any “recreational” use for the military-style assault weapon used to kill innocent victims in Orlando.  

Question:  Where do you stand on this issue?  Do you also feel caught in the middle?  Please share your thoughts in a comment.

In a 2013 Gallup poll, 56% of Americans said they would vote for a law that would reinstate and strengthen the ban on assault weapons that was in place from 1994 to 2004 — the higher level of support perhaps resulting from the fact that the question reminded respondents that this law had been on the books previously (a year earlier, 51% opposed an assault weapons ban).

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